When I have a post with a ton of likes and comments, I don’t actually get around to replying to everyone. It’s not humanly possible for me to do so. So, I unintentionally end up ghosting my followers after asking them to turn up. It’s like handing out your business cards at a party and not picking up when somebody calls (I guess because, everybody’s calling all at once and you only have one pair of ears?).
This puts an odd distance between me and my “followers”. I’ve suddenly roped off a section and end up replying only to the ones with blue ticks. That’s the easiest way, right? Reply to the names you recognise, reply to the names everyone else thinks matter and move on, warm and fuzzy about your trending content. But therein lies the problem.
In accidentally shading everyone else who spoke up, threw love or engaged with you, you’ve taken away a piece of their ego when they see their comment didn’t warrant a response or wasn’t good or important enough to catch your attention.
According to Psyche Central:
[V]alidation is a simple concept to understand but difficult to put into practice. Why is validation important? Validation communicates acceptance. Humans have a…
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